"Advancing Self through Expanding Map"
We started communication through crying, eye contact, gestures, postures, etc since birth. The socialization process starts and the child continuously receives many messages from the family members and others. In childhood, we usually taught what is expected behavior and what is not. Besides, norms, values, and beliefs of the society are also taught. As a result, the child becomes a mature person carrying these kinds of values and beliefs. In Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), such a state is called “Presuppositions”. This is also termed as “assumed belief” because what we have perceived as a child, we are behaving sometimes according to that perception in our present life.
Richard Bandler, John Grinder & Others (1970s) developed Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), a psychological approach that analyzes the person’s thoughts, language, and patterns of behaviors like how we communicate with ourselves and others. To understand more, “Neuro” means what we processed information through our five senses like visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, and gustatory. After that, this information is coded, ordered, and give meaning in our brain through language and other non-verbal communication systems which are termed as “linguistics”. Moreover, how we communicate with the world by using this coded information is referred to as “programming”. We all have a representation of the outside world as a personal map. On a personal map, we struggle with assumed distorted beliefs in moving forward in our life. However, to become a mature and healthy person, we can reframe our distorted beliefs by practicing NLP.
There are many NLP presuppositions; among them, the core presupposition is “the map is not the territory”. By analyzing the difference between belief and reality, the person can create a logical picture of the situation. In addition, we can see how this “map” affects the perception, thoughts, and behavior about self, others, and the world. Therefore, by expanding the map and respecting other person's maps, we can accept the challenges in our reality and move forward to develop new strategies in replacing unproductive ones.
Another powerful presupposition is “there is no failure, only feedback, and learning”. We usually give focus on our failures and run through our internal processing or filtering our negative memories. As a result, we make an internal representation of that negative event and it combines with our physiological process that creates a negative state where ‘state’ refers to the internal emotional state of a person such as happy, sad, motivated etc. Since our mind and body are connected neurologically and affect each other. Therefore, if we concentrate only on our failures, we feel sad; conversely, if we concentrate on the feedback by dissociating from the failure, we feel happy and confident in advancing ourselves. In this way, the unresourceful state will be converted into a resourceful state that can lead a healthier life.
SANJIDA AFROZ
Mental Health Counselor & Certified NLP Practitioner
Labaid Hospital, Dhaka, Bangladesh
BSc& MSc (Psychology), University of Dhaka, Bangladesh
MSc (Counseling Psychology), University of Dhaka, Bangladesh
Diploma (TA& NLP), ASHA, India
Certificate Program (Disability& Rehabilitation) Queen’s University, Canada
Diploma (Dynamic Counseling & Coaching therapy), Tamilnadu Youth Development Fedaration & Emocare, India
Certification (NLP Practitioner Course) Tamilnadu Youth Development Fedaration & Emocare, India
Email: sanjida.psy@gmail.com
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